The Forgive Process reveals a simple process to forgive the hurts and pains that hold people back. Life is full-contact. There are hurts and joys at every turn. But those hurts, when they are not released, hold people captive. The way through a hurt is forgiveness. Yet many people do not understand forgiveness. The misunderstandings and myths make it even more difficult—unless you have a simple process to work through. With Lee Baucom’s principles, forgiving is a simple, six-step process. Anyone can forgive, move forward, and find peace and healing.
The Forgive Process reveals a simple process to forgive the hurts and pains that hold people back. Life is full-contact. There are hurts and joys at every turn. But those hurts, when they are not released, hold people captive. The way through a hurt is forgiveness. Yet many people do not understand forgiveness. The misunderstandings and myths make it even more difficult--unless you have a simple process to work through. With Lee Baucom's principles, forgiving is a simple, six-step process. Anyone can forgive, move forward, and find peace and healing.
Many people come for help because they remain stuck in a destructive relationship, job, legal battle or memories of child abuse. A growing number of therapists believe that forgiveness is of crucial importance in helping people break away from these patterns of resentment and revenge. Does forgiveness help? Or is the concept out of date in our more secular society? Forgiveness and the Healing Process considers this debate. Experienced contributors: * Consider the place of forgiveness in working with individuals and couples * Explore the benefits of mediation as a way forward both for the individual and the organisation, and also within the criminal justice system * Offer a valuable insight into South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission and the crucial role of forgiveness in post-apartheid South Africa * Examine a client's view of seeking forgiveness * Present new frameworks for workers seeking to help people cope with trauma and injustice. Forgiveness and the Healing Process helps counsellors, psychotherapists, social workers, mediators, psychiatrists, and those working in the criminal justice system understand how forgiveness can facilitate the therapeutic process. Cynthia Ransley is a lecturer and course leader in social work at Brunel University. She is an integrative psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer in London. Terri Spy is a counselling psychologist and fellow of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. She is a London-based integrative psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer. Contributors: Michael Carroll, Jane Cooper, Gill Eagle, Maria Gilbert, Joy Green, Guy Masters, Fathima Moosa, Cynthia Ransley, Terri Spy, Gill Straker.
Too many of us feel trapped in stagnant romantic, family, or workplace relationships. Weighed down by toxic thoughts and emotions, we might be quick to judge and slow to pardon, and self-righteous about our feelings as we dwell on memories of what we or others did (or failed to do). In this new book, Iyanla Vanzant challenges us to liberate ourselves from the wounds of the past and to embrace the new power of forgiveness. With Iyanla’s 21-Day Forgiveness Plan, you’ll explore relationship dynamics with your parents, children, friends, partners, co-workers, bosses, yourself, and even God. With journaling work and Emotional Freedom Techniques (also known as "tapping"), you’ll learn to live with more love; gain new clarity on your life, lessons, and blessings; and discover a new level of personal freedom, peace, and well-being. Forgiveness doesn’t mean agreeing with, condoning, or even liking what has happened. Forgiveness means letting go and knowing that—regardless of how challenging, frightening, or difficult an experience may seem—everything is just as it needs to be in order for you to grow and learn. When you focus on how things "should" be, you deny the presence and power of love. Accept the events of the past, while being willing to change your perspective on them. As Iyanla says, "Only forgiveness can liberate minds and hearts once held captive by anger, bitterness, resentment, and fear. Forgiveness is a true path to freedom that can renew faith, build trust, and nourish the soul."
Anger is not just ubiquitous, it is also popular. Many people think it is impossible to care sufficiently for justice without anger at injustice. Many believe that it is impossible for individuals to vindicate their own self-respect or to move beyond an injury without anger. To not feel anger in those cases would be considered suspect. Is this how we should think about anger, or is anger above all a disease, deforming both the personal and the political? In this wide-ranging book, Martha C. Nussbaum, one of our leading public intellectuals, argues that anger is conceptually confused and normatively pernicious. It assumes that the suffering of the wrongdoer restores the thing that was damaged, and it betrays an all-too-lively interest in relative status and humiliation. Studying anger in intimate relationships, casual daily interactions, the workplace, the criminal justice system, and movements for social transformation, Nussbaum shows that anger's core ideas are both infantile and harmful. Is forgiveness the best way of transcending anger? Nussbaum examines different conceptions of this much-sentimentalized notion, both in the Jewish and Christian traditions and in secular morality. Some forms of forgiveness are ethically promising, she claims, but others are subtle allies of retribution: those that exact a performance of contrition and abasement as a condition of waiving angry feelings. In general, she argues, a spirit of generosity (combined, in some cases, with a reliance on impartial welfare-oriented legal institutions) is the best way to respond to injury. Applied to the personal and the political realms, Nussbaum's profoundly insightful and erudite view of anger and forgiveness puts both in a startling new light.
Publisher's description: Psychologist Sharon Lamb and philosopher Jeffrie Murphy argue that forgiveness has been accepted as a therapeutic strategy without serious, critical examination. Chapters by both psychologists and philosophers ask: Why is forgiveness so popular now? What exactly does it entail? When might it be appropriate for a therapist not to advise forgiveness? When is forgiveness in fact harmful?
Showcasing the very latest in the theory, research and practice of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) across a range of clinical applications, including eating disorders, depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, borderline personality disorder, PTSD and substance abuse, with contributions from leading ACT practitioners including co-founders Kirk Strosahl, Kelly Wilson and Rob Zettle. Chapters range from detailed treatments of the scientific and theoretical aspects of the ACT model and research program, to detailed discussions of how to apply ACT to a variety of human problems. Divided into two parts, the first section features theoretical treatments of ACT, with the second (and larger) section presenting extended descriptions of how to apply ACT in different contexts. This rich content mix reflects the strengths of the contextual behavioral science (CBS) research program espoused by Michael Levin and Steven Hayes from the University of Nevada. In the end, ACT is an applied treatment model, and as such, it lives and dies by its ability to effectively benefit a wide variety of clients. In order to make the treatment increasingly effective and to maximize understanding about precisely how the treatment works, its tenets must be theoretically coherent, firmly based on empirically tried and true principles, and must have its active psychological processes clearly identified and sufficiently assessed. This book clearly demonstrates such a mix of full application, an appreciation of basic-applied research linkage, clear and behaviorally-consistent conceptualization of specific problem areas, and coherent explication of the ACT model. This book will not only tell you what to do with clients struggling with various problems, it will also tell you how those things work.
Includes a preview of The New Kitchen Mystic, the next book Mary Hayes Grieco. Forgiveness is about more than just letting go. It’s about healing wounds and wiping away scars. It’s about feeling better—physically and emotionally. It’s about living your life with purpose and truly moving forward. In Unconditional Forgiveness, Mary Hayes Grieco offers the Eight Steps to Freedom, a simple, effective eight-step program that teaches readers how to completely forgive in order to achieve both emotional and physical well-being. This step-by-step method incorporates emotional, energetic, and spiritual components that are accessible to everyone and offer lasting success. The Eight Steps to Freedom are: Step One: Use Your Will Declare your intention through the power of will to begin the process of forgiveness. Step Two: Express Your Emotional Pain You are given complete freedom to express your honest emotions without judgment or fear. Step Three: Release Expectations from Your Mind Identify and let go of the expectations you had surrounding the person or situation that you are forgiving. Step Four: Restore Your Boundaries Firmly separate yourself from the harmful actions and attitudes of the other person or situation. Step Five: Open Up to Getting Your Needs Met in a Different Way Emotions have been released, expectations have been let go, and you no longer demand anything from the person or situation that you are forgiving. Step 6: Receive Healing Energy from Spirit Reach to a higher level, bringing unconditional love and light into your being. Step Seven: Send Unconditional Love to the Other Person or Situation and Release Unconditional love and light is freely given to the person or situation you are forgiving. Step Eight: See the Good in the Person or Situation Now that you are free from the past pain and grievance, recognize the good that can be taken from the person or situation. Grieco walks the reader through each step and addresses the entire spectrum of painful issues, from the everyday mundane to the most difficult, as well as providing a way to forgive one’s self, when necessary. The how to appendix provides a perennial, off-the-shelf reference to swiftly guide readers through the process whenever the need arises. With Grieco’s in-depth yet simple program, your healing can be as swift as it is lasting.
In his early twenties, author Sebastian King was involved in a life changing car accident. In the beginning, his parents were told to prepare for his death. King survived, but suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder. It created a new focus for him. In You Are Awesome! he shares the lessons hes learned in the aftermath of his near-death experience. King teaches eight, straightforward practices you can apply to gain the life you deserve. He addresses a variety of issues and challenges you may face on a regular basis, including: needing to change your habits; getting annoyed very easily; finding relationships difficult; needing more love in your life; finding it hard to enjoy yourself; making the time for celebration; and wanting to be more appreciated. You Are Awesome! offers a host of insights into how to lead an extraordinary life that is filled with love and awesomeness.